A father,s influence goes to the fourth generation after him. Whitney Houston,s parents Emily and John Houston divorced when she was at kindergertan.Together with her lover, Bobby Brown,Whitney smoked crack in the  presence of their 5 year old daughter,Bobbi died of drug abuse…her mother Whitney died at 48 on similar grounds. Great careers and more importantly, great lives lost due to weak fatherhood.

While there,s is little you can do about your ancestors , there is something that you can do about decendants.One thing that prevents a man being a good father is that he hasn’t completed being a boy. To be in your children,s memory tomorrow, you have to be in their lives, today Having children doesn’t make you a father. Raising them does.

There are many of us who were raised up in unstable families but we don’t have to pass it on to our children. We don’t have to fight in the presence of our children. We can choose to shield their emotions from our disputes as adults. To a large extent, you are a product of your early relationships.

Unstable parents create insecure children. stable parents raise stable children. Children need affection (hugs),attention(listening) and affirmation(positive words),every day when a man loves his wife, it creates security and stability. The best gift a father can give his children is to love their mother. Children learn how to handle feelings, losses,failures and conflict at home.

Regrettably, parenting can neither be delegated nor suspended for a while as work for the ring of and fortune. The growth of children is Like a young tree, It takes the bends directed by the gardener ,so is the life of a child. You cant shape it in an adulthood; You cant pick it from where you left after reach the top in your career pursuits. Its always easier to model young boys than to rehabilitate grown up men.

If you invest in your child, you don’t have to invest for your child . Children require presence not presents. No amount of gifts and meeting financial obligations can replace your personal presence. Take for instance this strong Lady called Nasubuga we found in hospital with no where to go and was laterally given 6 to 8 months to live with her 3 year old baby. Their only Hope was its mothers love who walked 43 miles from her village town called muduma and she just about made it to the referral hospital in the city where GOD blessed us to link us up with her. please allow me to narrate her story another time as its quiet long and sad.

To be continued         PART (2)

Its been 2 years since we first set our eyes on this lady Mrs Nasubuga. Who by the time we met her, was only given 3 months to live and the same with her 3 year old child